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A Chill Friday in Mom Mode

I can’t sleep, my mind is racing and I thought the current novel I’m reading would put me to sleep (reading this late makes me sleepy) unfortunately did nothing to curb my brain being in high gear. So now I’m going to indulge and write freely and I’m truly not sure what is going to come out of my mouth at this hour of the night.

We had a wonderful day today, I got my nails done in the morning and when we got home, Valeria wanted to snack and watch a little television. We started to try movies with her, though she doesn’t watch them all at once, we give her a movie in intervals. I guess that’s weird, but it helps us control her screen time and frankly she gets bored of television fast in general. Half the time she’s playing or colouring while the t.v. is playing in the background. So needless to say, I’m not worried about Valeria being addicted to screens. Anyway, she had a really good morning and so this was her reward. As for the snacks, I really don’t know where she puts it, my baby can eat! It’s impressive and I truly don’t know where she puts it in that tiny body of hers. I know she burns it off because I can’t get her to sit still for a moment, she is constantly running and jumping around.

Whoever said little girls were calm and chill has not met my fearless daughter! I swear she gives me a mild panic attack at least once a day.

She went down for a nap around noon and I read for a bit before heading to my lair (c’mon that just sounds way cooler than saying my boring basement….JUST SAYIN!) to work on some of my wood burning I have on the go. I was currently working on some mug coasters that are spooky themed. I’ve now got three out of the four completed. Once they are all completed, I’ll seal them and they will be done. Woo-hoo!

This one is the one I was working on today, Valeria slept long enough for me to complete.

Once she was up, the afternoon flew by with playing, chasing her and daddy as I try to catch/scare them (a game she finds HILARIOUS), a little food/snacks, more running around, and then she got ready to head over to Grandma’s house. She was so excited to be spending the evening over there. Thankfully my mom watches her as I attend therapy, and Anthony kindly drives me the 45 minutes to my therapist’s office. But I digress, Valeria was thrilled and so were my parents and brother.

She immediately saw my mom and goes “Grandma!” and practically jumps from Anthony’s arms. Then she plays shy with my brother Marco for only a moment this time before she grabs him by the hand, shows him the bag of toys/books we brought for her and pulls out her building blocks. Clearly indicating she wanted to build with him. He kept her occupied as my mom finished cooking dinner and we sneaked out of the house.

The drive was good, traffic getting out of the city as always and therapy was really good. Touched on a heavy hitting subject for me. I may or may not post about that because I’m on the fence about divulging my personal stuff from therapy. Therapy is probably what’s keeping me up for the most part.

The drive home was good, peaceful. On these drives, Anthony and I actually get to speak freely without a toddler yelling at us. A quick stop at the store, then picked up Valeria and headed home.

Our night ended pretty relaxed and quiet. We started to teach Valeria how to pray before bed. My sister-in-law Cristina and her husband bought her a prayer book with a praying bunny stuffed animal, so we’ve been using that. She is too adorable trying to do the sign of the cross; she gets a little mixed up when she tries to do it and look at us as a reference – we participate with her. She’s talking more and more each day and she’s very curious about all the religious items we have in the house. I also gave her one of my rosary for her bed, she’s very curious about them.

Once she was asleep, Anthony and I watched a movie and then we parted ways to do our own things. I wanted to read and he wanted to get some work done on his special project. But that was pretty much the day in a nutshell.

Writing has made me a bit sleepy, so I’m going to call it here ladies and gents. I hope you have a wonderful day or night wherever you are in the world!

Ciao!!

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Long Weekend Magic: Simple Fun, Sweet Memories

Now before you all come for me, I knooooow that Summer is still in swing until September 22nd. But I’ll be real with you, once September hits, it’s Autumn for me. Plus, it’s also Labour Day weekend and the last weekend before kids return to school here in Canada. So why not embrace the last bit of summer freedom with some family fun?!

Friday was the start of our long weekend, with a quiet day spent at home for the most part. Only a few errands to run. We were suppose to head over to my parents for dinner, but we opted to push it over to Saturday so Valeria could spend more time with them.

Saturday morning was fairly mellow with our usual routine at play; breakfast, colouring, reading, a little Romanian kids music, general play and a nap to follow. In the afternoon we went over to my parents place around 3 PM. My middle brother, Marco, lives with them now and took over our old haunting grounds – the basement. Valeria was very excited to hang out down there, explore her Zio’s room and watch Bluey on his massive television.

We went for a walk around the block after we had dinner (mom cooked – YAY I didn’t have to!) and it was really nice. My stomach sadly didn’t like the food (damn teriyaki sauce!), but hey it was delicious going down. The walk helped though….and the peppermint tea. After that it was basically all of us hanging out and Valeria playing with everyone. It was nice, she didn’t want to leave. However it was WAY passed her bedtime and she was beginning to sputter cry. We knew right then and there that we only had minimal time to get her home.

Why is it that kids are like little volcanoes – quiet one moment, then erupting the next?

Regardless, we got her home in time and off to bed quickly. The rest of the evening was pretty much relaxing for the most part. I worked on a bit of my wood burning and watched some movies. Anthony was working on some things too, a passion project if you will. I’ll keep it under wraps for now, but keep an eye out in a future post! I definitely did the exaggerated wink at the end of that sentence when I typed it by the way.

Sunday was a jumbled mess….

I had to roast up 2 bushels of Sheppard Peppers, which my mom purchased at the beginning of the week and decided to give me too late. They were starting to rot AND I had also mentioned that they would be an all day process. We had to go for a picnic with the whole family that afternoon. Needless to say, the peppers ended up in the trash and I (and Anthony)….wasted a lot of time roasting them. I’m extremely annoyed but in the end they were unsafe to eat. That is the end of that story, onto the picnic.

The family picnic was great! We ended up going to a park called Pinafore Park and it was beautiful. There was so many different covered picnic areas, a splash pad, multiple playgrounds and a little amphitheater. My whole family arrived before we did, Valeria was tired and had a long nap that day. But they found this little covered picnic area behind the amphitheater and it had a little open area by the treeline for the kids to run around. Not to mention a trail entry into the forest – which just walked you either in a straight line or a circle back to the entrance. We had a wonderful picnic all together, each of us bringing something. I opted to bring my own food for fear of my darn stomach. After we all ate, we blew up a giant beach ball, we all kicked it around and were playing with it. Valeria had an absolute blast chasing that ball from one person to another. Picking it up, kicking and throwing it. I got some incredible photos of everyone. The boys were playing catch and they even got in a game of Bocce.

If you don’t know what Bocce is I’ll explain it. It’s an Italian lawn bowling game in the most simple form. Basically two teams roll larger coloured balls as close as possible to a small white target ball (it’s called a pallino) to score points. The more balls you have closest to the pallino for your team than the more points you accumulate. So you need to be strategic and try to knock the other opponents balls away from the pallino. It’s also underhand rolling or throwing. Really, reeeeally fun and if your in my family, can get competitive. Absolutely love it!

When Valeria started to get a bit restless, we opted to all pack up and walk over to the playground and swings. She was so excited and she spent the whole time pretty much just swinging away. Her favourite thing to do at the playground to be honest. Not surprising though, I was like that too as a kid. She crashed pretty fast though and by 6:30 PM, we were heading home. We had a bit of a drive, but again made it home just in time before a full on meltdown happened due to exhaustion. Let’s just say, she slept pretty good, which some tossing an turning from being exhausted.

Now for today, well that one was pretty easy. Valeria came RACING into our bedroom with daddy in toe, all while she yelled ‘Mommy, Mommy” over and over again. My eyes were closed, but I heard her making noise in her room as she played. As she stood at the side of my bed, I popped my eyes open and said “Morning baby!” She jumps up and down excited with a smile on her face and says “Morning baby.” I leaned over and picked her up, putting her in bed for morning cuddles. She was snacky this morning, but she ate a good amount for breakfast before we got her ready to head to the park and splash pad by our house.

We were there for at least 45 minutes to an hour. She played on the slide, banged on some drums and then once a swing was free….LOOK OUT. She ran to that swing so fast and stayed there for a while. A little boy was being pushed on the swing next to her and he was singing – Oh Mister Sun (which she DOES NOT like at all) and she kept saying “No….Noooo…” as Anthony and I just looked at each other and laughed. At one point, someone pressed the button in the splash pad which got her attention and she says “Apă…” and well the swing was over.

We took her over to the splash pad and she was having a ball as she watched the water at a safe distance and put her hands in only when she felt it was necessary. Then a little boy came and they started to play together, he wanted her to go and run through the water with him (which she skirted the edge of the water instead), but she kept telling the little boy “Boy….in.” It was pretty funny to be honest, but his attention span turned to his bike and the playground we had just left. We played a little longer, running along the edge of the water with Valeria before it was time to head home for a nap.

Once her nap was done, my mom called and asked if we wanted to head over to hang out and spend some time. I made dinner for everyone and we hung around playing with Valeria. The time passed quickly though because before we knew it, it was time to head home. She did not want to leave grandma’s house, but she was super exhausted when we got home.

She fell asleep fast. However, it seems like she is having a bit of a rough sleep, so I’m going to call it here. Next wake-up will be mine.

I hope you had a wonderful long week (if you had one that is) and have a wonderful day or night wherever you are in the world!

Ciao!!

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The Sweet Sound of Valeria’s Voice

I think I have a parrot in the house…oh….wait….nope – it’s just Valeria!

She has been chatting for a while now and just recently, she has been repeating Anthony and I more and more. It’s absolutely incredible to hear and yes, she does still make up words and baby talks sometimes. However, I am finding she is becoming clearer each day and she is stringing together words to create very short sentences right now.

Though my absolute favorites are the phrases she’s picked up from Anthony and I – “Oh really?!” “Oh yeah!” “Yeah buddy” and so on! And man is she funny, like she is such a little jokester. When she says something funny or “bad”, she has this huge grin on her face and laughs, often followed by her running away with pure joy and excitement. It’s a beautiful sight to witness.

She has learned to say Happy Birthday, in her adorable baby girl voice, which sounds more like “Appy Burrthday!” Oh and she is able to answer the question “How old will you be?” “Twoo!” And she is so proud of herself when she says it too! Her birthday is coming up quickly, so it felt only right to teach her.

I love how much she is learning and so quickly that it’s absolutely astonishing. The nice thing is she seems interested in wanting to continually learn as well, which she gets from both Anthony and I. She’s got an inquisitive mind, I love it.

Anyway, that’s all for now, but look out for more tidbits from my little parrot!

I hope you have a wonderful day or night wherever you are in the world!

Ciao!

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Protecting Valeria: Boundaries in a Boundaryless World

I think I may have ranted about this before, but can someone explain to me why strangers feel it’s okay to try and play with my child, touch them or even ask to touch them? Would you approach a full grown adult and do those things? If the answer is NO, then don’t do it to someone’s child!

It happens more often then I’d like to admit and I tell people NO if they try to touch Valeria or ask to touch her. It is one thing to say a nice comment regarding my daughter, but don’t be creepy or weird toward her. I don’t need you making funny faces or repeatedly going “Hi! Hello!” in a child-like voice.

Maybe I’m just strange or over-protective in this crazy world of ours, but it’s frustrating for me as a parent. I would never just go up to someone’s child and do that, so I expect the same common courtesy and respect. Compliment or smile or both and move along.

Anthony had an instance today, while he was out with Valeria and I was at an appointment. He took her to Starbucks for daddy/daughter time and to grab her a breakfast sandwich. A man came in, who Anthony said was a bit sketchy from the moment he saw him, and proceeded to sit right across from them after he placed his order. He kept talking to Valeria in a child-like voice and attempting to play with her. Anthony gave him a “warning” stare to basically tell him to stop and go away. Apparently the man got the hint because he left shortly after.

I stand by the fact that if you wouldn’t go up to an adult and do those things, then do not treat a child any different. How have we created a world where there are no boundaries towards how you interact with a child. Boggles my brain, but I definitely have boundaries for my daughter. Are we the bad ones? Maybe, but I don’t think so.

Anyway, rant over.

I hope you have a wonderful day or night wherever you are in the world!

Ciao!

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From Crystals to Carrots: Adventures Close to Home

As a mom—or a parent in general—life doesn’t stop just because you’re under the weather. You still need to care for that little human, cook, clean, do laundry, and tackle the never-ending list of daily and weekly tasks. My life is no exception.

Even with my throat still feeling sore and irritated, I’m “soldiering” along and keeping Valeria entertained. Thankfully, Anthony had two days off because we had planned a little trip to the water park in Hamilton and some time with his mom before heading to a family get-together on Saturday. Sadly, we had to cancel all our plans, so now we’re trying to fill Valeria’s days with local activities that are a bit closer to home.

It’s been lots of walks, rock hunts (her new obsession, probably inspired by all the crystals I have lying around the house), trips to the playground, store runs, and even a visit to a farmers market. And I have to say, I really do miss farmers markets, especially in the summer and fall. I know what you’re thinking: “You’re sick, you shouldn’t be out…” and you’re right. But I can’t stay cooped up in the house with a toddler because she goes stir-crazy just as much as I do!

I’m not sure what we’ll get up to this afternoon or even this weekend, but hopefully, whatever it is, Valeria has fun. That’s the most important thing to me is that she enjoys whatever we’re doing.

Now, I’m going to take full advantage of the fact that she’s napping and tackle a few chores around the house: laundry, cleaning the kitchen, and so on. I’m currently testing out a homemade stain remover for clothes, so fingers crossed it works!

Homemade Stain Remover:

  • 1 Part Dawn Dish Soap
  • 1 Park Baking Soda
  • 2 Parts Hydrogen Peroxide

It should form a paste, however I found mine to be a bit too watery, so I think next time I’ll cut down on the Hydrogen Peroxide.

Anyway, I hope it works, I’ve been little it sit for a bit now on some shirts, so it’s time to go and throw them in the washer.

I hope you have a wonderful day or night wherever you are in the world!

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From Sunshine Walks to Crayon Walls

With the beautiful weather we’ve been having lately, we’ve made more of an effort to get out and enjoy the sunshine with Valeria. Some days it’s just short walks thanks to the humidity; other days it’s pool time at Grandma’s or a visit to the park. Whatever the outing, one thing is clear—she’s definitely an outdoorsy kid.

But of course, we’ve had some gloomy days sprinkled in, which means indoor playtime. I don’t know about other parents, but doing the same activities over and over can really drive you a little nuts. Valeria has grown bored of most of her toys, so I’m thinking of putting some of the older ones away and rotating new ones in. That said, she’s never really been a “toys” kind of kid—if that makes sense. I’m at a bit of a loss.

I recently bought her some big chunky blocks to play and build with, but most of the time she wants my husband or me to build things for her. We try to encourage her to do it herself, but after stacking a couple blocks, she loses interest.

I’ve also tried getting her involved in the kitchen—something I read is great for keeping little ones busy while teaching basic kitchen skills and safety. We made cornbread muffins the other day, which was a blast! She had her own little spoon and bowl, and even got to wear her own mini apron. It helped pass the time, but not for long.

I also bought her crayons and coloring books, but once she discovered she could draw on the walls… well, those had to disappear for a while.

Honestly, I’m at a bit of a loss. I’m not one to just park her in front of the TV all day. I love reading and playing with her whenever I can—and so does my husband. We’ve tried a lot of things, but I’m running out of ideas.

If anyone has any suggestions, I’m all ears!

Now I’m off to jot down some ideas for a potential Etsy business with my cousin and chat with my mom about a contract position where she works. More on that soon.

I hope you have a wonderful day or night wherever you are in the world!

Ciao!!

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Lions, Tigers and Bears….Oh It’s a Zoo Day!

On July 4th, we went to a smaller zoo that was about an hour away from us. Valeria has taken a real liking to all kinds of animals (she gets her love of animals from her mama), so we thought a zoo day would be perfect. Plus my parents wanted to come along so added bonus for Valeria, since grandma had the week off for vacation. I’ll scatter a few of my favourite photos throughout the post, as always I’m not going to post much of my daughter.

We left fairly early in the morning, but by the time we drove the hour to get there – the place was packed with cars. Not really a surprise, to be fair, since school is out for the summer and it was an absolutely gorgeous day. The zoo is a small one compared to Toronto, but needless to say it had a lot to see and a lot to do! We started off walking around half of the zoo – we saw goats, cows, monkeys, bears, pigs, lions, tigers, zebras, a camel, ostrich and even caught a glimpse of a wolf. Wolves are my husband’s favourite.

Grandma was nice enough to grab us some feed for the animals so we can feed the omnivores and herbivores. Valeria loved feeding the goats. I was able to capture the attention of my beloved bears, who were fast asleep until I threw some food in the cage for them. Beautiful black bears to be exact (though I love all bears, they are my all time favourite), and I just feel a kindred spirit to these gorgeous fur balls. I know crazy right? But they didn’t get up for anyone else, and others were feeding them too. Coincidence? Maybe, but I’m going to pretend like I’m special just this once.

Valeria was having a ball and she wanted to go into every single cage, looking at me and Anthony going “In, in!” And we’d have to tell her no, it’s too dangerous we can’t go in there. She got really upset when she couldn’t get up close and personal, especially with the ones who could tear you apart. She did, however, get her mind off that when we circled back to the goats to feed them. Oh how excited she was that the goats were eating out of her hands.

Once we were done, we took a quick bathroom break – handwashing thoroughly and a diaper change and than off to the picnic area we went, hoping to score a picnic table in the shade. We were indeed successful! We got a solo table right under a big tree, we grabbed the cooler from the car and had a little lunch. It was great because it was right by the splash pad, swings and playgrounds. They even had one of those big bouncy jumping pillow things for the kids, I have no idea what they are called. Did I say this place was amazing yet? It had a lot for kids to do, it was incredible!

Valeria did her rounds, even went to try the splash pad with daddy (I made sure she had a bathing suit that day, with a change of clothing for once she was finished. Prepared mom alert) and she hated the cold water! After a few attempts there, she wanted to play at the playground and we happily obliged. I took her to the toddler play area and she quickly made a friend with a little blonde girl. They took turns going down the slide and playing peek-a-boo through the play house window. It was very cute! She makes friends so easily. Alas, we had to go finish the zoo, so we said bye to her little friend and off we went.

We put everything back in the car and went into the second half of the zoo. There we saw lemurs, all sorts of reptiles, chickens, llamas, kangaroos, peacocks and mini horses. Chickens are Valeria’s absolute favourite animal. So when she saw them she squealed and got so excited, even started making chicken sounds. The white chicken in the photo immediately came to the fence when she started doing it. It was hilarious and I was able to capture a video.

We also went into the souvenir shop and of course we couldn’t leave without a little something. Two small stuffed animals for Valeria, a magnet for the fridge and a cute little crystal for me.

My parents had an absolute blast and my dad would have walked around with Valeria to see it all again, but alas the long day caught up to her and she was exhausted. No nap will do that to you! We piled in the car and Valeria immediately passed out for the hour long car ride – mom and I chatted the whole way, dad was driving and chatting with Anthony, who occupied the passenger seat.

All in all, it was truly a wonderful and fun day and I’m so glad we could spend it with my parents. Hoping to do more trips with the family, not just my side but Anthony’s as well. Would love to take his mom for a day trip (or two) with us this summer.

Hope you enjoyed a small glimpse into our trip and more to come!

I hope you have a wonderful day or night wherever you are in the world!

Ciao!

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Story-time with My Little Bookworm

Valeria is growing up fast and as suspected, she has finally grown into her book loving phase. She takes after her mama in that regard. But I’ve been reading to her since she was a teeny weeny, even before words had any real meaning to her. I personally think reading to a child from a very early age helps them developmentally, but I’m not doctor here so don’t take my word for it!

So she is hooked on books and often her favourite book/books changes every few weeks, but these are some of the ones she has been loving lately.

I personally love Robert Munsch books, just reminds me of my childhood. The story is fun and clever and the art is pretty amazing. But Valeria makes me laugh because every time we get to the pictures with the cave door, she knocks on the page because that’s what happens in the story. It’s priceless! Plus the ending of Paper Bag Princess has a great lesson for little girls. One of my favourites and my husband picked it up one day on his lunch break when he had to go to the office. Thanks love! Will definitely have to pick up more Robert Munsch books for sure.

Bluey is a given, she’s obsessed and Duck Duck Dinosaur I picked up on a whim from Bookoutlet.ca. (Not sure if the USA or any other country has a similar website, but I love it and get most my books there. If I can’t find a specific book, then I’ll buy it elsewhere.) Mommy and Me and Bobby’s Birthday Party are ones from my mom. All great books and all pretty engaging and sweet.

I’m sure her preferences will change soon, but thought I’d share what she’s into at the moment.

OH, I almost forgot! It’s not in the photo, but we have one those books where it’s the first 100 words and she enjoys that too, however she always gets Anthony to read that one. Why you may be asking, well it’s because she says “Main” meaning she wants him to read it in Romanian to her. It’s very sweet and something really special between them. I’ll get her to love the Italian language one day!

So that’s it for this post, but I hope you have a wonderful day or night wherever you are in the world!

Ciao!!

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Cabin Fever (And an Audi I Can’t Drive)!

But do you ever feel like you are stuck in a rut, trapped in your home and continuously doing the same monotonous routine? Or am I the only one?

I love being a stay at home mom and raising Valeria, but there are days I feel like I don’t leave the house because of this or that going on. I’m very much the type of person who hates being confined anywhere, especially my own home. I suppose that’s the Sagittarius in me, always wanting to move and needing a bit of freedom. Not having my car has been a bit hard to have any freedom lately, since I can not drive my husband’s boat of a car. Damn Audi A6! *Shakes fist in mock anger* Don’t worry, I’ll eventually get my car back, nothing bad happened to it. My brother is just borrowing it.

But even to just run simple errands while she naps would be so helpful for me, but I have to rely on my husband for a lot. He’s more than happy to oblige, but I hate asking him to take me here or there. So I just don’t.

But I’m going insane! I need out and I need things to occupy my time. Anyone got suggestions of things I can do outside the house? Or just….anything? I’m just so stuck and I’m in mom mode all the time. Even my evenings are starting to be booooooooring!

Can anyone relate?

Hope you have a wonderful day or night wherever you are in the world!

Ciao!!

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Staying Lit Without Burning Out

This blog post may be a bit odd, but it’s a thought that popped into my head as I was watching my daughter play and speaking with my husband today.

As a parent you begin to see your child’s personality emerge very early on and it progresses rapidly as they continue to grow and learn. Valeria has such a spirit about her, absolutely fearless, funny and social. This may sound silly, but she is so independent and sure of herself it’s absolutely astonishing. And as a mother I want to protect that for her, so she can keep her already incredible personality and confidence intact. It would truly crush me to see someone, people or something try to crush her light because I know how that is.

It made me realize that as a child my “light” was slowly taken away by others and by life events. Who I am today is very different than from when I was a child. Today I’m introverted, antisocial, overly logical, blunt, insecure and anxious. I was the polar opposite as a child, funny how life works out isn’t it?

And though I can not stop life from happening to Valeria; I can hopefully teach her to be strong and confident in who she is, so she is able to get through situations with intelligence and grace. As much as I’d like to protector her, and we all know that feeling as a parent, the reality is we can’t. I pray that no one will ever try to extinguish her light, even for a second. I’ve already put people in their place, happily, when they’ve tried to criticize or say something negative toward her. She can’t fully speak for herself right now, so I will be her word warrior! Flexes her arm muscle

But it’s made me rethink my life and my personality a little bit as well. I can only be my authentic self with select individuals who I trust, love and really can handle ALL of me. With absolutely no judgement. Because let’s face it, in the society with live in now, everyone scrutinizes EVERYONE. Heck, I’m guilty of it too, we all are. But I’m tired of changing myself or hiding who I am because of people. It sucks. But how do I do that without being judged or exiled? Is it even possible? Let’s be real for a second, if people knew the things rolling around in my head and the fact I curse like a sailor most the time (not around Valeria, don’t worry!), I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be well liked. Shrugs

So the question is, can I get my light/spark back or is it dulled forever?

That’s something I’ll have to work on.

Hopefully my husband and I can teach Valeria valuable tactics to deal with situations and people so that she never loses her confidence, self-assurance and that spark that makes her special. Any advice is helpful advice, leave it in the comments if you could please!

Sorry for the rant, but I needed to get this out of my head. Can you relate at all?

I hope you have a good day or night wherever you are in the world!

Ciao!!